NOTE: This recipe is reliable but unpredictable in its results. Use with caution.
- 1 person (in addition to oneself)
- common experiences
- a shared interest
- sarcasm or humor, to taste
2, in some cases for a season, in others for a lifetime
10 minutes – a year
- Meet someone–and have a shared experience together; this could be a class at school, a job, or some sort of social event. This shared experience can be either good or bad, and the experience doesn’t have to be anything dramatic or even interesting. These factors are incidental and should not affect the quality of the friendship.
- Find a common interest and mix this in. This could be a love for writing letters, or cinema, or painting one’s toenails, or vigorous exercise. The point is that people tend to need an excuse for a friendship, and a common interest often provides that initial glue to bring two people together.
- Be patient: occasionally the ingredients do not react well at first. Sometimes, close friends start out as irritating acquaintances, so it’s important to keep an open mind regarding people.
- Spend time with this friend and, for added fun, go on adventures (a recipe that pairs well with this one).
- Not all friendships will be equal in depth; this is normal, and having a variety of friendships can make life more fun.
- When fitting, add sarcasm or other varieties of humor; some cooks prefer sincerity and verbal encouragement, but my personal preference is to avoid the entire sub-genre known as “words of affirmation;” do your best to kill the friendship (I call this the “charbroiling technique”). If the friendship lasts, you’ll know it was real.
- If the above steps don’t work for you…then write your own recipe!
What are your recipes for friendship?